Why unsolicited advice is not helpful (and what to do instead) – Integrally Alive Podcast

Instead of talking, listen more. The better way to help anyone is to get curious about them.

What is the worst advice you ever got?I’m going to bet that it was probably unsolicited advice. I think for me it is. On helping, unsolicited advice, listening and friendship… A kind of unsolicited advice that always feels funny to me when I receive it, is about computer and technical stuff. See, not many people know it, but I worked as a web developer, so I know my work my way around computers. And actually for some, I’m kind of a geek; I use Linux, I install it myself, I installed my own website, etc. But the assumption when someone … Read more

How to use curiosity as your door to being unapologetic (and compassionate) – Integrally Alive Podcast

The more curious you get, the less judgmental and the more unapologetic you are.

What is your weird? Do you keep it for yourself like something you’d rather people not see about you?Or do you proudly show it for everyone to admire? I have many, which I share more or less privately. On ladybug, being weird, compassion and being unapologetic… Today I was thinking about someone I met a few years ago in a lovely community.When she arrived, everyone could not but notice she had a Ladybug doll on her head at any time. I literally never saw her without it. She acted like everything was normal, but let’s admit it, everyone was like: … Read more

Is authentic small talk possible? A surprising solution for deep connection – Integrally Alive Podcast

Small talk can be like a "friendzone" barrier in the conversation, or the door to connection.

Can small talk be authentic?Do you enjoy chit-chat? On small talk, the weather, connections, and levels of communication… I don’t. I never did like chit-chat. But I’m proud to say I’m now fluent in small talk. How did that happen? Years ago, not only I didn’t like small talk, I didn’t understand it. I felt like:”What’s the point? I know what the weather’s like. Why are we going to comment on it for 10 minutes? And then… What? Talk about the city I’m from? Yeah, I know it’s the pink city, everyone keeps telling me that… I know it already!” … Read more

A cure for Social fatigue: Deep connection, real fun! meetups – Integrally Alive Podcast

A cure for social fatigue: Un-networking Human meetups

This year has been great for loneliness hasn’t ?But the thing is, while this year and a half now has been really low on opportunities of just meeting and being around people… Meeting and being around people is not the cure for loneliness. It’s not enough!We need meaningful connections. On loneliness, meaningful connections, networking events, meetups, authentic relating, and having fun… I know that well: I’m moving around quite a bit… Usually; These days a lot less. So I’m often the new kid on the block, knowing no one in the place where I just arrived. I visit quite a … Read more

You are the inspiration you are looking for – Integrally Alive Podcast

You are seen... If you knew your choice would inspire thousands of people, how would you live your day today?

What are you the living example for? On sailing, dreams, inspiration, courage, blogs and strangers … When I was a teenager, I had a dream, a very precise and persistent dream, to travel and live on a sailing-boat. It took years, but I eventually did it. I started a blog to keep my family and my friends updated. But it ended up with strangers reading it, and I got some very touching emails of total strangers thanking me to show them it was possible. Seeing my website gave them the permission to dream and the permission to think they weren’t … Read more

Wanna thrive? Balance your ecosystem! – Integrally Alive Podcast

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One thing that, if I would resolve it right now, would make everything else easier, is having a richer social life again; you know, like, kind of before covid, when you could go out and just meet and talk to people freely. I’ve got other struggles, but this one I feel really is undermining my overall energy. Can you relate? Do you have something that you feel would make things easier for everything else in my life? On too much, too little, ecosystems and balance… It is very common to identify something as a problem and when we focus on … Read more

What to say to a friend who’s struggling (And how to ask for help if you are) – Integrally Alive Podcast

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How do you support someone who’s struggling with mental problems? We are only beginning to talk more openly about mental struggles, and there are still many, many misconceptions about it. And often it results in people with the best intentions making the situation worse, by trying to help. So here are a few do s and don’t s, so you can be there for your loved ones when they need you the most… And you can better ask for help when you need it. This article is for you if you’re struggling and want to help people around you help … Read more

Is it your instinct or your intuition talking? How to listen and use it. – Integrally Alive Podcast

The more embodied you are, the closer your are to your intuition. Claire Wild

Do you ever have gut feelings, sometime? Or a tiny voice in your head, or butterflies in the tummy, or…. Whatever form it takes: How do you know it’s instinct or intuition?How do you know when it is a good idea to follow it? On instinct, intuition, gut feeling, embodiment, and broccoli latte… A lot of my coaching is towards living more intuitively. Often in my coaching sessions, and almost always if the session is around relationship to food, a statement shows up:”Oh well if I listen to my intuition I would be eating ice cream all the time.” (Replace … Read more

How to be ready to start – Integrally Alive Podcast

“How will you know when you are ready?” On being and feeling ready, imposter syndrome, and getting started… That is in essence one question that arose in a recent coaching call, when I heard my client say: “I’m not experienced enough, I’m not ready.”Sadly these doubts is wide-spread, and it’s getting us to stop before even getting started. Welcome imposter syndrome, bye-bye action! Back when I was about to take the exam at the end of my Shiatsu training, I found myself in a seminar with mixed levels, paired up for an exercise with a beginner. She was not confident, … Read more

Automatically create your dreams with your optimized personal ecosystem – Integrally Alive Podcast

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So you’ve got goals for this year…How do you know you’re going to achieve them? What would support your journey?What do you need for this goal to become impossible to miss? Let’s see how we can apply permaculture in your life to create an ecosystem supporting your dreams. It all starts with a dream (of sailing the world in my case) When I was a teenage, I had a dream of sailing the world. Now, I was living inland, had sailed just a few times, and didn’t really know if that was actually doable. But I had no doubt I … Read more

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