Why unsolicited advice is not helpful (and what to do instead) – Integrally Alive Podcast

Instead of talking, listen more. The better way to help anyone is to get curious about them.

What is the worst advice you ever got?I’m going to bet that it was probably unsolicited advice. I think for me it is. On helping, unsolicited advice, listening and friendship… A kind of unsolicited advice that always feels funny to me when I receive it, is about computer and technical stuff. See, not many people know it, but I worked as a web developer, so I know my work my way around computers. And actually for some, I’m kind of a geek; I use Linux, I install it myself, I installed my own website, etc. But the assumption when someone … Read more

How to use curiosity as your door to being unapologetic (and compassionate) – Integrally Alive Podcast

The more curious you get, the less judgmental and the more unapologetic you are.

What is your weird? Do you keep it for yourself like something you’d rather people not see about you?Or do you proudly show it for everyone to admire? I have many, which I share more or less privately. On ladybug, being weird, compassion and being unapologetic… Today I was thinking about someone I met a few years ago in a lovely community.When she arrived, everyone could not but notice she had a Ladybug doll on her head at any time. I literally never saw her without it. She acted like everything was normal, but let’s admit it, everyone was like: … Read more

Is authentic small talk possible? A surprising solution for deep connection – Integrally Alive Podcast

Small talk can be like a "friendzone" barrier in the conversation, or the door to connection.

Can small talk be authentic?Do you enjoy chit-chat? On small talk, the weather, connections, and levels of communication… I don’t. I never did like chit-chat. But I’m proud to say I’m now fluent in small talk. How did that happen? Years ago, not only I didn’t like small talk, I didn’t understand it. I felt like:”What’s the point? I know what the weather’s like. Why are we going to comment on it for 10 minutes? And then… What? Talk about the city I’m from? Yeah, I know it’s the pink city, everyone keeps telling me that… I know it already!” … Read more

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