What do you need to be embodied?
- time to practice
- learn how
On being embodied, mindfulness, making coffee and riding bikes…
In the conversations around the embodiment conference that took place last month (October 2020), one lady particularly touched me when she shared that it shifted her view on what embodiment was, and that she didn’t need to have the perfect body to be embodied.
If you remember my second last podcast (“what is embodiment… to me”), you will guess how happy I was to read that. Yes! Embodiment is not about what body you sculpt, but rather how present you are, not only to your thoughts, but also your body, your emotions, etc.
And this can sound like a lot of work. But I have good news, like always 😉
You are already doing it.
Remember the podcast last week? Your practice is whatever you are doing on a daily basis. Well, you already are having thoughts, emotions, using your body…
You already are embodied!
But how? Is it conscious, intentional embodiment?
Years ago, a psychologist got surprised by hearing a serial killer say he could “spot a victim” in a few seconds. So she studied that: Turns out by just observing a few seconds of a recorded video of someone walking, he could tell who would be the most vulnerable. All the people he pointed out had an history of being assaulted. They were unknowingly embodying their history.
This guy is not the only one reading non-verbal cue, we do it all the time.
Richard Branson has said that he knew if he would make business with someone in the first minutes of meeting a person. And many salesman are able to tell if the person entering the shop is just looking around, or actually decided to buy something.
We all have this unconscious skill, and it can be intentionally developed, with tools like NLP, spiral somatic…
There are many ways embodiment is useful in our lives.
When I was practicing Shiatsu, sometimes a client would hold their limb in the air, while they could relax. Most of the time, just making them aware that they were doing so (verbally or non-verbally) was enough for them to automatically relax.
Noticing how you are using your body doesn’t mean you have to change anything. But the body is able to rearrange itself for the best, if you let all your intelligences collaborate.
The first step to do anything intentionally, is to recognise what we are already doing.
Notice how you use your body today. What is an activity you do daily?
Notice how you embody this activity:
- making coffee / tea
- sitting at your desk
- answering your phone
- walking in the street
- riding your bike
… Notice how present, or not, you are in your body.
If you are new to this kind of exploration, focus on one, the physical body. If you are feeling comfortable staying aware of your physical body for a while, add layers: Notice how present, or not, in your emotional state, in your thoughts… These intelligences are always there, and they interact with each other all the time.
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(Intro music for the podcast: “Tiny people”, by Alexei De Bronhe )